March 19, 2008

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  this was on postsecret.  it's sad.  marian has been doubting love.  i just excuse things as not real love.  don't do it.  don't marry the wrong person!  marriage frightens me like nothing else.  when weddings are more like contracts and/or ends of therapy sessions, when divorce is at 50% even for Christians, when people would rather choose marrying anyone than being alone, when those who are married are just challenges to each other everyday, how can one find hope in relationships anymore?  marian had even stopped believing that the definition of love in scripture to be a realistic scenario.  i told her otherwise but i can only speak from my limited experience.  love is much more than a concrete commitment; love is much more than just a decision.  i fear that all the counseling ideas created to combat the rising failure rate of marriage is causing everyone to justify it being more a mental thing than a heart thing- or worse, excuse issues as personal spiritual problems.  no.  i have never felt that way.  passion, attraction, communication, connection, joy, all the beautiful emotional and intellectual gifts God has given us, can and should exist in the relationship He ultimately blesses you with.  ..but who am i to tell people not to settle.

  i am still loyal to myers briggs jung keirsey, which still explains so much to me.

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